Happy to be featured~ Tracks of my years

I’m happy to be featured by Louise, who Blogs at My Three and Me.
Louise asked fellow Bloggers to send a list of their favourite tracks for a feature called ‘Tracks of my Years’ to see my list please follow the link below: 

Tracks of my Years 

What an interesting mix I have! 

Thanks for reading 🙂 

Our ‘Support Crew’ 

Family Fund Blog post for October 2016.

When I heard of the theme of ‘Our Support Crew’ for October’s Blog theme, I was excited to celebrate the people that have been there for us as a family, especially over the past 2 years. I am often telling the people who support us how grateful I am, but it’s also great to celebrate these wonderful people in a Blog post.

My family:

My parents live a 5-minute drive away from our house, as both myself and my partner, Paul are unable to drive (for various reasons,) I am so very grateful that my dad is always on hand to help out with travelling to one of the many appointments that I have to take Amber to. This may be for a hearing test at our local hospital, which is 8 miles from our house, Occupational Therapy appointments, and even though Amber’s Paediatrician appointments are at our local medical practice, its difficult for me to keep Amber calm with her younger sister of 18 months present also. My dad will drive us to these appointments and then supervise my youngest, Maisie whilst I go in with Amber. My parents are extremely understanding of Amber’s difficulties, whenever I receive information or reports I place them in a folder and often photocopy for my parents to refer to. They are very good at carrying on certain routines, if Amber goes over for the day, or stays for a few nights, for example by using her visual timetables or sensory toys if they can see she’s getting a bit overloaded. Apart from Amber’s daddy, my mum is the only person that has witnessed Amber’s extreme sensory overloads, this is because Amber is very good at holding her overloads in. I have found that Amber will only display extreme meltdowns with those whom she is most comfortable in the company of – one being my mum. My mum has 25 years Early Years’ experience, she is the calmest person I have ever met and is so brilliant with Amber, she has taken on some ‘Sensory Diet’ activities when Amber goes over, such as making sensory play dough. 

Amber with her Nanna

My sister is also Godmother to both Amber and Maisie, she too has helped out with appointments and will come over to play with the girls to give me a little ‘brain break!’ Their Aunt and Uncle are extremely good at playing role-play ‘shops,’ which is currently a big hit with Amber! My sister recently stepped in and took over when I couldn’t move due to Sciatica in my back, changing and dressing and giving the girls their meals. 

Maisie with her Aunty Bex
Amber with her Aunty Bex

My cousin, who works in childcare, has a great rapport with Amber, only last month she drove us to a local ‘messy play’ session which Amber thrived on. 

Amber with my cousin

Paul’s family:
As I wrote in a previous Family Fund Blog post, Paul’s dad’s family are a fantastic support when we take the girls to visit them in Somerset. Even though there is distance, and we would love to live closer, the support and advice is there via weekly ‘Face Time’ via mobile phone with Paul’s sister and niece, and a weekly phone call to Paul’s dad keeps him up-to-date with all our going’s on! We find that Social Media sites allow us to keep up-to-date even though we live 1 ½ hours apart. 

Amber with her Aunty Vicki
Amber with her cousin
Amber and her cousin have a strong bond – it’s lovely seeing them holding hands whilst going down the slide!
When Amber’s Aunty and Cousin visit she loves trips to the park

Friends and neighbours:
We have a fantastic network of friends and neighbours, this network grew once we moved to our current home in August 2015, and I got speaking to some of the other parents at Amber’s Pre School. Many of these friends are regularly kept up-to-date with Amber’s progress, before meeting these lovely people, I was extremely anxious about taking Amber on a ‘Play-date’ in case she was to hurt another child. My friends have been so encouraging and have taken note that Amber’s play-date time limit is around 2 hours, and will be aware of this if Amber starts experiencing sensory overloads. One of these wonderful friends lives only 2 doors away and is Maisie’s Godmother, and such a great support to our family. Friends have taken us on trips to local parks, animal parks, our local countryside centre and we’ve had a lovely walk through the woods together, which Amber – being an ‘outdoors’ girl, absolutely loved! Our friends are very understanding of Amber’s difficulties and many have reported how she makes them laugh with her infectious personality! When my parents were away on holiday, one friend even took us for one of Amber’s hospital appointments, even though they have children of their own, they always find the time to help us, and for this I am eternally grateful. 

Amber during a ‘Play-date’ with one of her friends

Health professionals:
When I first recognised that Amber had some difficulties, we had quite a mixed response in terms of support when she was around 2 years old. Often our parenting was scrutinised in the beginning as things hadn’t been looked into long enough and a great deal of Amber’s overloads were put down to the ‘Terrible Two’s’ which I did have my doubts about. Because Amber’s behaviours at home were difficult past the age of 2, then 3, then 4 we knew that something needed to be looked into. We were extremely lucky to move back to the area covered by Amber’s Health Visitor from when she was first born, who knew our family well. When I explained the situation to this Health Visitor, she was the first professional who actually said to me: “I believe you.” She witnessed Amber at home, climbing onto furniture, not settling, continually being on the move and sensory seeking. She then arranged for a referral to an Occupational Therapist. 

Education professionals:

Amber had attended a few different childcare settings before our house move in August 2015, at first I was reluctant to move her to yet another setting, but the house move was a necessity as it was vital that we moved from our first floor flat to a house with a garden to benefit Amber’s love of the outdoors and to allow her to burn more energy. I was so glad that we made the move to her Pre-School as a member of staff first introduced us to the SMILE (Sensation Movement Interaction in Life Experiences) Centre in Malvern, Worcestershire which provides Amber with so much support in school holidays. The Pre School leader was the first practitioner to mention Sensory Processing to me, as I’d only come across 1 child in my 12 years in Education. This practitioner organised monthly TAC (Team Around the Child) meetings to ensure that Amber received the best level of support from Pre School and support us as a whole family also. The Pre-School leader ensured that Amber’s transition over to school was smooth via an in-depth hand-over and we are very grateful to the school’s Inclusion Manager who, in only 3 weeks of Amber attending, has already offered a tremendous amount of support and advice. 

Without our ‘support team’ we would be utterly lost, sometimes all that is needed is a listening ear, especially if it has been a tough day, it’s very easy to get caught up in our own family ‘bubble’ at home, and letting people in to help and support only makes us stronger.

Amber loves helping to take her Aunt and Uncle’s Dog, (Lenny) for a walk

Thanks for reading 🙂 

Nicki ~ Sensory Sensitive Mummy 

Paul, Nicki and Amber at 10 months old

Even though I didn’t attend…

 

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…Doesn’t mean that we don’t care or matter, for that instance.

On Thursday 15th September a final decision was made on the proposed Children’s Centre cuts for 32 centres across Worcestershire.

I have written a previous Blog post about:

‘The Impact that local children’s centres have had on my family.’

Our story was also featured in local newspapers such as this one:

Malvern Gazette – Children’s Centre cuts

On the day the decision stood that the 32 centres would remain open but will have their funding cut from 4.5 million to 3 million. What myself and other parents in the support groups I belong to are concerned about is with this level of cuts how can the same level of service be provided? There are many experienced professionals in areas such as Family Support who are still unaware of the security of their jobs. These professionals work so hard, and not only work from the centres, but go into family homes to provide support.

Conservative Councillor Marc Bayliss is very vocal about the decision on Twitter providing replies to selected ‘Tweets’ via Twitter. I asked him:

“If you had a child with additional needs who had up to 10 meltdowns a day, which service would you go to for support?”

His reply:

“We are not shutting any centres and children and families in need will still be supported.”

Such a general reply that many people are receiving, what I wanted was for Councillor Bayliss to put himself in our shoes, and try to understand what it’s like when you don’t have a child who complies at home, who has explosive outbursts, that effect the whole family, and this still happens after every strategy you’ve tried. If the centres are still open is it guaranteed that the families will actually receive the same level of support? I don’t think so, in August 2015 we were referred to Family Support at our local children’s centre and a year on my child’s behaviour is actually worse at home as she is stronger and more difficulties are becoming notable, instead of weekly visits we have now been offered 1, yes 1 home visit, so yes indeed we are already seeing the effects of the funding cuts. I am saddened that Councillor Bayliss cannot be more sympathetic towards parents who support the centres, as he is a father himself.

Catherine Driscoll a senior director at Worcestershire Council was appointed to oversee children’s services, on 16th August 2016, the Worcester News published a report where Ms Driscoll stated that:

“People using the centres are not those most at risk.”

“They are not vulnerable families at risk.”

This angered me greatly as it was all about demographics, statistics and numbers – ticking a box – something that matters to me the least. Then I thought about our own case, we are regular children’s centre users, as my previous Blog post details, I attended baby groups as I felt isolated, I have a history of anxiety and depression and this means that I often feel socially awkward and find it difficult to talk to other people. We live in a council house, our rented house was sold and we didn’t have the money to rent somewhere else privately as money was extremely short after not returning to work after July 2014, due to a house move into a council rented house, to which I have no shame as my partner works over 40 hours a week and we have made it a cosy and safe home for our children, does this make us not at risk? Does having mental health issue not put me at risk? My partner has learning difficulties and severe Dyslexia- does this not put us at risk? I also happen to have a degree in Primary Education and a Postgraduate Certificate – Early Years Teacher Status (EYTS.)

What I’m trying to say is not everything about everyone in a household has to be straightforward, whether seen as ‘vulnerable’ or not, families from all walks of life need support. Just because I have 12 years’ education and childcare experience doesn’t mean that I’m a perfect parent, when I discovered my child had additional needs I struggled, even though I’ve worked with children with additional needs in the past, when it’s happening in your own home, and there’s so much emotion involved it’s a very different story. I wish people could see past generalisations of ‘groups’ and ‘types’ of people and what they should and shouldn’t be able to do.

Councillor Bayliss talks in such a nasty way to centre supporters on Twitter he wrote to Daniel Walton (PCC Candidate for West Mercia – Labour Party.)

“you we’re the one predicting a mass demo. BTW there were 46 people there inc. 3 labour & 1 green councillors.”

In fact, Cll Bayliss had not included the children into the equation that attended the council meeting on 15th September and it’s their future that we’re fighting for, and of course they matter!

Siani who runs the group for Worcestershire mums network was correct in stating to Cll Bayliss:

“do you have any idea how hard it is for families to attend a weekday meeting? And how hard it was for the 46?”

I care, I wanted to be at the meeting with my children, but I couldn’t attend that time on that day. Cll Bayliss’ Tweet made me want to justify why I couldn’t be at the meeting, although I wanted to, along with many other parents.

Here’s the reason why I didn’t attend:

My 4-year-old started school on 5th September and is still attending for mornings only. After I dropped her off at 9am, it takes me around 15 minutes to settle her as she has Sensory Processing Disorder and is overwhelmed by the noise and business of her classroom first thing in the morning, she will literally cling onto my arm until the classroom isn’t as busy. By this time I would have missed the bus from my village to County hall, (8 miles away) and I do not drive due to circumstances from a crash when I was younger. I needed to stay within the local vicinity as my daughter was picked up at 12.45, meaning if I had attended the meeting I couldn’t have made the pick-up and she would have been distressed that I wasn’t there to collect. If I had brought both my children to the meeting, it would have meant my eldest missed school and it was important that she settles in her first days, having Sensory Processing Disorder means that she simply wouldn’t have coped with the sight and sounds of a council meeting and would have attempted to run out of the room several times. What I’m trying to say is, not everyone drives, not everyone has it easy, some people have to plan their trips out to the finest detail to ensure their children can cope with the situation. I will make my voice heard through the power of words, online via my Blog and social media, I’ve never been any good at debates or understanding politics, but I can write about what makes me passionate – and the lives of other families who experience the same as we have, but that miss out on the support, due to funding cuts – that’s what drives me.

Thanks for reading 🙂

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Channillo: A Digital Publishing Platform for Writers

Channillo is the platform from where I’m publishing my 2 Online series 🙂

Roughly this time last year, Kara Klotz launched Channillo, a subscription-based digital publishing platform for authors. The concept is fairly simple: authors apply to publish their content in serial format on the site, and readers pay a monthly fee that allows them to follow and read several stories at a time. The authors take home a collective 80% of the site’s revenue, based on the number of subscribers to their work, and they have a new channel to engage with readers and build their platform.

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Guest Feature ~ Sleep and Bedtimes Series 

Today I am featuring Lucy at ‘Real Mum Reviews.’  Lucy states that she started her Blog to:

share my experiences, to help others in the same boat, by sharing real life experiences of products & services aimed at pregnancy, motherhood and beyond.


Please explain a bit about yourself. How many children you have and how old are they? 

I am Lucy – mum to 3-year-old Erin and am currently 36 weeks pregnant with my second daughter.

What is your child(ren)’s usual bedtime routine? E.g. Bath time, story, (how many?) etc.

My daughter at aged 3 goes to bed around 7.30/8pm. Our normal bedtime routine is that we have milk downstairs – then go upstairs, get in pyjamas/brush teeth etc, and then read a story before having a cuddle and a chat. She normally starts to nod off when we have a cuddle, and then I put her in bed and tuck her in. Erin was breast fed until she was 2, so as a result, unfortunately used the boob as a bit of a sleep aid, which caused quite a lot of challenges in that she has never really learned to settle herself to sleep. Unlike some parents, we are unable to put her in bed and leave her to go to sleep on her own. However, she will now self-settle if she wakes in the night, and I have no problem with the cuddles before bed – she is only little once! 🙂

Having had a nightmare sleeper from birth to 2 years, I am now dreading my second arriving and returning back to sleep deprivation! I am hoping for a good sleeper 2nd time around. This time, I will make a conscious effort to teach her to self-settle, and not rely on me or the milk as a sleep aid!

If your child has tried to gain your attention after you’ve said goodnight, what do you do? Go back to see what the problem is? Leave them?

I am a little bit weak – so if she does cry, I would always go in. When she was younger I was probably a bit too quick to go in, whereas if I had left her a little longer she may have self-settled.

Does your child share a room with a sibling or have their own room?

She has her own room, and has been in there since she was about 10 months.

Do you have any tips for siblings sharing a room? Do they wake each other up in the night/morning? Do you put your youngest or eldest up first?

Can’t answer this one but would be interested to know!

What is your child(ren)’s usual bedtime? And usual awake time? Do you have any views on putting later to bed, does it mean that they get up slightly later? Or still the same time in the morning?!

My daughter goes to bed about 7.30/8 and usually wakes about 7/7.30am. I occasionally let her stay up late if there is a special occasion like family party or wedding, and if I do, she generally will lie in (the latest is till about 9). I don’t find much difference in her wake time if I put her to bed at 7 or 8, its fairly consistent.

Do you have any strategies or tips for a smooth running bedtime? 

We have a bedtime story every night which I find really helpful for a routine. We don’t do a daily bath time as this doesn’t work with our lifestyle/working hours etc. We have never really used projectors/music or comforters. Erin does love a cuddle (won’t settle without one) and has her Ra Ra (bunny rabbit) with her to cuddle.

Do you have any other strategies that have worked for you?

We have found sleep a real challenge up until Erin turned 2, at which point she miraculously appeared to turn a corner. There was no particular reason for this, other than perhaps her understanding of what was happening at bedtime improved!

Does your child still have day time naps? Morning or afternoon? Morning and afternoon? 

We stopped my daughter’s day time naps when she was about 26 months, mainly because her bedtime sleep was so bad we wanted to test the theory that she would be so tired at bedtime that she would sleep better. It didn’t work right away, but now she doesn’t nap and generally sleeps through unless she has a nightmare. If we have a particularly busy day she will occasionally nod off in the car or when we get home, but this is only a quick power nap, and not the long 2.5 hour naps she used to have in the afternoon.

Thanks go to Lucy for joining in with the Bedtime and Sleep Series 🙂 

You can find Lucy’s Blog here:

Real Mum Review 

And on social media: 

Facebook

Twitter : 

@realmumreview

Thanks for reading 🙂 

Latest Updates

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I’ve not been able to post as much over the past few weeks, much to my disappointment, as I’ve got so many posts to write! We’ve been so busy with the start of the school term and many different appointments which are all helping to support Lou, which I’m very grateful for!

Today I received a report from Occupational Therapy, (after our appointment last week,) which outlined that Lou struggled with gross motor activities, often trips over things and lacks spatial awareness, something that I’d definitely agree with! It was noted how she couldn’t settle on an activity in the OT’s room and was trying to gain my attention in any way possible. I’ve noticed this before, as Lou dislikes it when I talk about her to professionals. It was interesting that the OT picked up that:

“Not all difficulties can be solely explained from a sensory basis, her emotional and behavioural response to demands placed on her or requests to comply, particularly at home also impact on her development.”

This is exactly what I’ve noticed from 18 months old and has been one of my greatest worries, there are huge behavioural and emotional problems, particularly at home. Which is the questions I’ve had about the ‘other’ factors that may accompany Sensory Processing Disorder.

I have been given some great hand-outs on Postural and Limb Control and Stability, to help with the hypermobility aspects. And the gross motor and spatial awareness. I will receive a visit from the OT next week at home, as it was so difficult for me to take in the information whilst also ensuring Lou didn’t run out of the door, which she attempted several times! The OT is also going to visit Lou at school to see how she functions there.

Today we saw Lou’s Peadiatrican, and again, Lou was extremely lively! She loved the examination couch as usual! And liked the antibacterial hand cleanser very much! We had the same behaviours as when we saw the OT with constantly trying to gain my attention by running out of the door and wanting to go to the toilet several times! We talked about the main issues on anger, aggression and frustration and about eating. It was agreed that the best way forward is to see how Lou settles in full time school hours as this will tell us a lot, with certain activities going to be put in place to release the sensory overloads throughout the day, will she still hold it all in and explode once reaching home? Lou will be seen again in January 2017, when we’ve seen her at school for a whole term. As we’ve talked about previously, there’s no doubt that Sensory Processing Disorder is there, but the next question is if this stands alone, or if indeed there is something else that’s accompanying this. It was noted that there are traits of ADHD in Lou, especially the hyperactivity, but Lou is still too young to go through the assessment for ADHD. There are also traits of ASD but again, we need to wait a bit longer to see how she gets on, as I agreed that many 4 year olds display as energetic! We need to know if this is going to carry on, or if it will settle.

To conclude, what we need to do is carry on with the visuals, visuals, visuals and take all the advice given. Looking back to that black pit that we were in last year when Lou’s behaviour was blamed on our parenting skills, (thanks for that goes to our old Health Visitor!) We have come a long way, we are now being listened to and I feel that Lou is receiving the help and support that I’ve been fighting for now for over 2 years!

2 more bits of ‘news:’

  • I’ve reached 800 Twitter followers 🙂 Massive thanks to everyone!
  • In October , as a family of 4, we are being photographed for the charity ‘Family Fund,’ to be used in their marketing materials!

 

Thanks for reading 🙂

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Our trip to Wick Care Farm

Today we visited Wick Care Farm, Near Pershore, Worcestershire. This is not far from where we live and we hadn’t been to a meet-up before with other children with additional needs, which is something that we’ve been wanting to do for a while now. 

We were met by Tom and Isobel who run Wick Care Farm. Amber enjoyed watching the beautiful white ducks and was brave to offer them some food, we watched as the ducks filtered out the mud from the puddle water for them to drink! We then went on to feed the 2 black piglets, Amber was a little reluctant to touch them at first but eventually did and was then helping to feed them in the trough. 

Amber really enjoyed feeding the Jacob sheep, she was intrigued that one was a ‘spotty sheep,’ Tom told us that Jacob sheep can have 2 or 4 horns and some even have 6! 

We were very lucky to get a look at new family dog, a Labrador pup called Millie. Amber was delighted to see a puppy that looked the same as her ‘doggie’ soft toy at home, which is her main comfort object. 
We then moved onto the geese and chickens, with both Amber and Mummy being brave to go into the pen! A goose took a liking to Amber’s bright pink All-in-one suit! But I was impressed how she handled this by calming soon after. We saw the turkeys too and a highlight for Amber was getting to have a sit on the green tractor! She was delighted to get up and steer the big wheel! As she stepped off and I asked if she’d enjoyed that she replied: 

“When I grow up, I’m going to be a tractor girl.” 

My very own ‘Tractor Girl’

Which is a world away from wanting to be ‘Queen Elsa’ which was her preference a few weeks ago! 
Inside we listened whilst Isobel told us how corn is grinded and how this technique used to be done with a stone. Amber had a go at using a grinder with a lever and correctly identified that it was flour that was coming out the other end! 

We were so happy to have joined this meet-up trip, Tom and Isobel were patient, understanding and welcoming. We would defintely like to re-visit the farm again soon.

For further information please visit: 

Wick Care Farm Website

Thanks for reading 🙂 

“Learn to control it” 

Lou has a big ‘special interest’ in Queen Elsa from the film ‘Frozen.’ When she is asked: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Everytime she answers: “Queen Elsa,” wow my girl has high ambition! She likes to dress as Elsa, role-plays Elsa and Anna and sometimes the only time she will let me tie her hair up is if i say “you’ll look like Queen Elsa!” 

Queen Elsa had to learn to control her special powers to avoid others being fearful of her and she had to learn how to be accepted.

It was during a course I attended yesterday called ‘Understanding Autism‘ (which was run by ‘Autism West Midlands,’) that the comparison of Lou to Queen Elsa came to me. As a group we discussed strategies for dealing with anger, outbursts and sensory overloads. One of the things I think will come with age is for Lou to understand the signs of a meltdown for herself and to be able to recognise when she needs to take herself off to her calm place before she hits out, shouts, screams, throws objects and spits. 

After a fairly big meltdown yesterday afternoon, and when Moo was having her afternoon nap, once Lou was calm I spoke to her about how being angry makes her feel and I was astonished when she said “my head was red mummy.” She too experiences what I describe as ‘The Red Mist.‘ Something that I am familiar with, especially when I was a teenager. If I was being called names at school, being picked on or if I’d got something wrong, such as my homework, I’d hold in my anger and frustrations for the rest of the day and once I got home, I usually went up to my room and let rip, I’d cry, scream and generally throw things about. From talking to my parents this isn’t something I did as a child, as I was extremely calm and passive, it was like I’d been saving it all up for my teenage years! What I had to do was learn to control these feelings and I’ve got better with age. At times of great stress I do tend to see this ‘Red Mist‘ again, but now I usually go for a walk once Lou’s daddy gets home, or I take myself off to my room for a quiet few minutes. What I’ve found is that if I’m trying to teach Lou to “stay calm” and take a “deep breath,” then I have to be the positive role model, and refrain from shouting or completely losing it, no matter how hard this may be! I find Lou’s meltdowns extremely difficult to deal with, other people may deal with this kind of thing differently, but I find it very challenging when she’s screaming at me as I’m not a fan of loud noises and I have a perferation on my ear drum and if I’m near a loud noise it vibrates and causes discomfort. I’m also not a fan of confrontations and physical harm. I want to run away when Lou is hitting out at me and I know that as her mother it is my duty to keep her safe from harm.

Yesterday was the first time I had sat in a room with other parents who experience the same on a daily basis, this was a big step for me and so reassuring. I have a few meet-ups and a trip coming up over the next few weeks with other parents who have children with additional needs, something that I’ve been wanting to do for a while now. It’s very reassuring to talk to other people that know what your going through and have been there. 

My hope this that, with time, Lou will recognise the signs for herself and take herself off to her ‘calm zone,’ or go and lie on her bed before it gets to the point of a meltdown. I hope to use her special interest in Queen Elsa to use as a role model who learnt to control her ‘powers.’ 

For more information visit:

Autism West Midlands

To find a local support group in your area visit: 

SPOKAN

And visit Facebook: 

@spokanuk
Thanks for reading 🙂 

This girl loves her ‘Queen Elsa’ dress, even if it is fashioned with a red Power Ranger mask!

Spectrum Sunday

Sleep and Bedtime Series ~ Guest Feature 

Today I am featuring Kelly, who blogs at Kelly Allen Writer. Kelly Blogs about ‘Lifestyle and Freedom,’ I can completely relate to Kelly when she explains that:

“As a child I spent most of my time at the library with my head in a book or watching movies.” 


Here are Kelly’s experiences of Sleep and Bedtimes:


Please explain a bit about yourself. How many children you have and how old are they? 

I am a mother to two children, George aged nearly 7 and Molly 5.

What is your child(ren)’s usual bedtime routine? E.g. Bath time, story, (how many?) etc. 

Varies from night to night but ALWAYS stories.

If your child has tried to gain your attention after you’ve said goodnight, what do you do? 

Go back to see what the problem is? Leave them?

Go and see them, you never know if there is a real emergency (there never is). 

Does your child share a room with a sibling or have their own room?

They have bunkbeds and have always shared a room 🙂

Do you have any tips for siblings sharing a room? Do they wake each other up in the night/morning? Do you put your youngest or eldest up first? 

No tips. Bedtime is the time when I give up any hope of doing any blogging hahaha! I think forcing them into their own room can sometimes be a mistake, we tried it and they hated it. They missed the company. 

What is your child(ren)’s usual bedtime? And usual awake time? Do you have any views on putting later to bed, does it mean that they get up slightly later? Or still the same time in the morning?! 

We have found that it doesn’t matter how late to bed, the children still get up at 5am regardless! Sometimes earlier! George flakes around 8pm and always wakes before 7am. Molly will go to sleep later, she likes to stay up late and then she sleeps in. Weirdest thing is they were the opposite as babies.

Do you have any strategies or tips for a smooth running bedtime? 

Music/stories played on the cd player, letting them play until they choose to go to sleep. 


Does your child still have day time naps? Morning or afternoon? Morning and afternoon? 


No naps here!


Thanks go to Kelly for joining in 🙂 



You can read more from Kelly here:

www.kellyallenwriter.com

Twitter: @kallenwriter

Facebook

Thank you for reading 🙂