5 favourite photos from July.

As July is coming to a close, I looked back on my 5 best photos from the month of July: 

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This is Moo at Lou’s sports day, she’s just learnt how to cover her eyes for ‘Peep-Po’ but it looks more like a reaction from the race results! 

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My action shot of Lou on a very hot and sunny visit to a local park.

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A very cheeky grin from a proud Lou as she’s learnt how to swing on her own!

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Lou and Moo are spending more time together, due to it being the summer hols, just had to capture this moment as both seemed reluctant but we’re making progress!

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My nature shot of the month – taken only yesterday during a visit to the park in my mum’s village, I just loved the orange and red tones in the field.

I’m not sure what the weather will be like for August but I’m looking forward to taking more photos to look back on next month.

Thanks for reading 🙂 

5 favourite photos for June 

I thought I’d sum up the past month of June by sharing my 5 favourite photos.

A lot of focus for June was Sibling bonding, to continue to build a positive relationship between Lou and Moo. 

Here Lou is sharing her sensory seeking experiences with Moo in the sandpit.
We explored a park we hadn’t been to before. Lou and Moo explored the tractor together beautifully.
Moo explored my parents garden properly for the first time as she is now fully mobile! She enjoyed the little bike that was originally Lou’s.
We enjoyed a day out to Worcester Woods. Lou was fantastic at balancing along a tree trunk.
I enjoy taking various nature pictures, I captured the Poppies growing in a field in the village where we live.

I look forward to capturing some more lovely moments from July, especially as we move into the summer holidays! 

Extreme Jealousy

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Research series
Our experiences of sibling jealousy or Rivalry.

Sibling Rivalry
What is sibling rivalry?
“Sibling rivalry is the jealousy, competition and fighting between brothers and sisters.  It is a concern for almost all parents of two or more kids. Problems often start right after the birth of the second child.”

Source:

www.med.umich.edu

We didn’t tell Lou she was going to be a big sister until I was noticeably pregnant. At about 6 months pregnant we broke the news and soon noticed a change in her behaviour. Until Moo’s birth in March 2015 Lou was the only grandchild on my side, she was the apple of everyone’s eye and was used to an audience of people with their undivided attention on her.

When Moo was born Lou had little interest in looking at her when we first brought her home. Lou was given ‘Big Sister’ T- shirts and cards to make her special. People would ask her “have you got a baby sister?” “Are you a big sister?” And “what’s your baby sister’s name? Lou would change the subject and talk about something entirely different. Sometimes she would say “baby” but she wouldn’t say her actual name for at least 6 months after her birth. Lou’s behaviour at home was tricky, she would rock the moses basket rigorously and attempt to tip over the bouncer chair that Moo was sitting in. I literally couldn’t take my eyes off them for a second. Lou started to get angry and throw objects so I’d have to shut myself and Moo inside another room behind a stair gate. I would need to watch carefully as Lou would try and grab Moo’s tiny leg if I walked past with her. I tried everything to include her with helping with bathing and getting Moo dressed, fetching nappies etc, and helping to give a bottle, but there was little or no interest. I was told that Lou has started to draw her family, she said “there’s mummy, there’s daddy and that’s Maisie Moo” – finally saying her name, Moo was drawn in black and myself, daddy and Amber were coloured blue. Lou was toilet trained before Moo was born but she did regress once Moo arrived, she wanted to have a nappy on and be “changed like a baby” as she said. We also would get the sitting down in the middle of the path as there was jealousy of Moo being in a pushchair and Lou was a big girl walking. Not even the addition of a buggy board would convince her!

I did wonder if Lou would get better once she realised Moo was here to stay! She would try and sit across people that were holding Moo, even though everyone was careful to ensure that Lou wasn’t left out. She would say “my mummy” if I was giving Moo a cuddle or a bottle and would launch the bottle away across the room. When Moo got to the age where she started crawling I’d have to act as a referee as Lou would try and pull her legs and flip her over. She wouldn’t have a clue that she was hurting her sister, even if Moo cried. Once Moo started walking I’d hope the situation would improve but the rough-housing seems to be more frequent. I will start a game and Lou will just randomly try and pick Moo up and wants to drop her, I’m unsure what her motive with this is as if I try and talk about her feelings on hurting Moo she will change the subject onto something completely different.

It is heart melting to see some great sibling moments and we really praise for times like these, Lou has a kindness towards Moo which I’m trying to build on more each day, she will break a biscuit in half and say “look mummy I shared!” I am also building on a special time of each day where I have quality 1:1 time with Lou, usually during Moo’s nap time, where I have been including activities for Lou’s ‘Sensory Diet’ including a lot of tactile and messy play. I am currently going through having to reassure Moo when Lou approaches her as she is afraid that she’s going to get hurt if she even goes near her as it’s happening so frequently, I don’t want Moo to be afraid of her sibling so I’m working on Lou using ‘kind hands’ all the time. We are still in the early stages of this. It is with great hope that the 2 girls will grow to have a positive sibling relationship we hope they can eventually share a room without Lou constantly waking Moo up! I’ve had people ask me if they think that Lou’s difficulties wouldn’t be so prominent if we’d decided to have Moo later than a 3 year gap, I was quiet taken aback, but I do think the longer Lou would have had with us and the family alone, then the harder she would have found it to accept Moo as a part of the family. I just think she’s a child who finds it difficult to share us.

I found that ‘The Sibling Support Project’ provides support for siblings of children with health, developmental and mental health concerns:

www.siblingsupport.org

I also sourced some books about having a new baby in the family from our local library, which can also been bought online, such as from Amazon:

New baby book

New baby book

And a book for parents – another to add to my wish list which us ever – growing!

Sibling Rivary

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Spectrum Sunday

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This is my June offering for the

#siblingsproject.

Over the half term break we spent a lovely sunny afternoon at a local park that we’d not visited before. I am working on building a positive relationship between the girls, especially as Moo is now on the move and wants to follow her big sister everywhere!  

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The Me and Mine Project